Kids In Wedding

Your wedding day is going to be the best day of your life. If you're nervous that you don't know how to make sure you will involve everyone in your wedding, especially the kids, here are some ideas that will make it easier for you to involve kids in your wedding. I know you would like everybody to be involved in your wedding, but the first thing you should think about is the kids. You must involve kids in your wedding, to incorporate them into the wedding agenda because in this way your job as a host is going to be much easier.

It's very common nowadays that kids are on the guest list when is a wedding in the pictures. Besides just attending the wedding, as a life-changing event, there are a lot of kids that play a very important role. There are cases when the wedding is the second wedding of the bride, groom or maybe of both soon to be married lovers. In this case they might have kids from previous relationship. Your daughters and sons can be easily involved in the wedding ceremony. You can do this via traditional means or though other way that allows your kids to feel important and to be a part of your special event. Involving your kids in your wedding is crucial for them. So consider this idea.

There are a certain number of responsibilities that kids can traditionally take on during a wedding. The most popular rules that involve kids in a wedding are the fallowing: Ring bearers, Flower girls, Bridesmaid or best man ( for teenagers).


You should never think that you have to use your creativity just when it comes to decorations and arrangements. Your imaginations and your creativity are the best weapons you have when you have to organize any event, especially a wedding.  These two weapons, as I called them, count so much when you have to design the role of different family members. When this involves children, this decision making process is the most important. If it's the second wedding of their mum or dad, a prime importance role is the thing that will make them feel safe.

Safe as in: they will not loose their parent after this union. Usually children are scared when the only parent finds someone new, so be smart and do this as you should. What I mean is: involve your kids in your wedding. Involve them in the wedding and show them that no matter what change comes into your life, he/she will be the most important person for you and nobody can steal you away of your son/ daughter.


The best thing you can do, is to involve them in the key elements of the wedding, in this way they will surely know they are the same for you. Here are some ideas of how to involve your kids in your wedding, in the most special parts of your event:

The VOWS - tradition says that they are given by the couple but it's not forbidden and it's very popular for couples with kids, to ask the minister to let them recite their own vows. These vows can be very emotional. They usually state the I do, regarding the new life partner of their parent. I do means that they accept their new dad or mum and they promise to love him/her forever. This way of involving the kids in your wedding is very emotional and direct. Talk to them and ask them if they want to do it. If they are thrilled, then your job is done.

STANDING - by the bride and the groom is another way of involving the kids in the wedding. It's a great option that gives the kids the chance to be active during the whole wedding ceremony.

UNITY CANDLES - these candles symbolize the union of two persons, souls becoming one. One of the tapers symbolize the bride and the other one the groom. During the ceremony, tradition says that the mother's kids should light the mother's candle and that the father's kids should light the father's candles. When this is done, the next step is the most important and truly emotional. The two candles are united in the unity candles creating a vivid flame. If just one of the soon to be married couples has kids, then there are other ways of doing this. The one who doesn't have any kids will just light her/his candle by herself/himself. This is a very loving way of involving kids in your wedding.


Even if you come up with these amazing ideas, you might be surprised of your kids' wishes. They might be shy to perform on the stage of your wedding, to speak directly and it's possible for them to prefer a behind-the scene role for the wedding. Think about the options you have. You can involve you kid in the wedding planning and this might be really fun for him/her. Consider that in this way you will save some money as well. This is an indirect way of involving kids in your wedding. Be creative and come up with some original ideas that will help you involve kids in your wedding. Here are some tips:

Consult the kids on specific details regarding the wedding. Maybe you don't expect but they can give you really good ideas. Kids have an amazing, great imaginations and creativity. For them everything is possible, so give them the chance to express their thoughts about the way you organize your event. Small contributions like a particular color, a favorite flower, anything can help and it will make you kid to feel important and useful.


Give them the chance to show their talents. Maybe are gifted in a unique way and they want to express themselves. If they can sing or play an instrument is great. You can have the first dance with your husband on a song played by your kid. This will surely be something. Let them paint if they want, anything is possible. Try to organize everything in order for you kids to feel involved in your wedding.

Involving your kids in your wedding it's the first thing you should think about if you want to have a good relationship with your sweet son or daughter. Show them they count for you and that they are still going to be the most important thing in your life.